Social Security Disability and Child Support

I get asked this question from time to time as well. My understanding is also that disability benefits can be garnished for child support but that SSI benefits may not. SSA's website mentions this difference in FAQs regarding direct deposit: http://www.ssa.gov/deposit/DDFAQ898.htm (scroll down to the last question).

I am deaf clamaint of ssdi, and i get 151 of mine garnishment. A friend of mine works and he get 50 dollars taking out I find this is very very unfair. I am disabled not able to work and get garnishment of 151 way too much.

I have been on SSDI since 1989, as of last year i received
a letter from the Riverside Ca. distrit Att. office that i
owe $2,940.00 dollars in Arears since 1983-1985.
They also stated that they could get into my bank account,
and take my ssdi money. Also they could take my stimlus-
check whitch they did from 2008.
Also revoce my drivers licences.
Can U Help????
Thank You Mr. John T. Muck
Please Respond..

my husband had an accident 1 year ago and is going to aply for disability he told that if he gets that, he is not obligated to give any money for our daughter that is 5 years old ,is it true?

I have been on ssdi. for twenty years. Riverside Co. DA,
says i owe back child support, they also say they can
take part of my check, and revoake my drivers licenece…
Can they?

What about the reverse – what about if you have a child you reaches the age of majority who is disabled according to SS and has been receiving SSI, although not always because of household income. Is the non-custodial still obligated to support the child or does he get to walk from his obligations by shoving it off on the taxpayer. I realize not all states have adult child support for children who were disabled prior to reaching majority, but many, many do. What happens then? I have heard that some Moms had exs take them to court and the court pushed the responsibility off on you and me, but $600 is peanuts when you need caregivers. If Mom is to work and provide food, etc. then SSI isn't going to cut it. How are two people going to live on $600, especially if non-custodial manipulates the courts by humiliating the child (albeit adult child) by dragging private medical information, educational limitations, etc. through the courts. This happened to a lady I go to church with – ex abandoned her and child when the child was a baby and has never asked about school, paid medical bills, maintained contact, etc. now wanting every school record, medical record, etc. just to abuse the Mom and embarrass his 27 year old. His lawyer convinced one Mom to agreed to terminated child support for a negotiated fixed rate and duration payment, because this was a supplement to son's SSI – then turned around and told SSA that Mom was defrauding government, although it was a mediated settlement. Mom lost child support because case was closed by agreement and cannot be reopenned, Mom lost SSI for son, and Dad is sitting fat and happy vacationing all around the world.

Any guidance you can provide – it is email I provided above because she is at her wits end. No help from any attorney she contacts, they all say too convoluted and she is terrified her case is going to end up like the Mom who now gets nothing, just 100% of the responsibility, oh, and a statement from SSI that they can reapply in 5 years. He lost the pittance he got, health care, dignity, etc. Where are the courts and SS on these issues since there are thousands and thousands of disabled adult kids in the US needing support from both parents. Bad enough the in majority of cases the custodial has almost 100% if not 100% of the physical and psychological support, but now she has all the financial as well. She had to leave her job just to provide care for her son and is literally losing her home, and living on about 400 a month from her elderly widowed Mom. Does not seem right that the court is blind to the game and that there is not a bulldog attorney out there who will step up and help out someone who so desperately needs it. Where is that southern service I was fortunate enough to have been raised in so many, many years ago.

My question is simple i think. I was injured and fractured my neck and spine. i am going to have surgery to attempt to correct all this but there is a great chance i will not walk again. recently i have been awarded ssi and ssdi. I learned today that i have some back money coming from ssdi and i do have an arrears from child support and as soon as the ex found out that i am getting disabled she has informed people that she is going to get all of my back money for the arrears i owe. can she take this??? my son living with her will also be receiving almost 600 a month for my disability. so can she take that back owed amount?

What is the appeal process for a ss garnishment letter postmarked May 8, 2009 for a child support order issued by a court in 1991 who said in that order that they lacked personal jurisdiction over me, but were assuming jurisdiction over the child? The child is now 23.

Hello. I have applied for ssdi and ssi due to a disability that has manifested over the last ten years. I have a monthly child support payment of approx. $585.00 Will this amount be paid by SSDI or SSI if I am approved?

sounds like you should have paid your child support instead of being a dead beat. It has come back and bit you and you deserve it.

YES SHE CAN SAD I THINK THEY SHOULD CHANGE THE LAWS

My ex husband has applied for ssi and ssdi and is currently not paying child support. I have full custody of our three children in another state and wondering if the kids will get benifits if he gets ssi or ssdi? do i half to file papers for those benifits or does it come automatically once he gets the benifits? and if he gets back pay will that go towards his owed child support?I know nothing about the process, and in need of support for my children .
please if anyone knows the answers let me know
thanks sarah

Take responblity stop boeing so greedy disable to work but not disable to comment ur thoughts and worries about ur money

Hi, final decree of divorce 2/8/06 ordered min wage child support for minor child due to unemployment recognizing that I had been diagnosed bipolar. I never worked due to this mental illness and applied online for SSDI, atty represented me in administrative appeal and I rec favorable ruling…in my state of Alabama in civil court of appeal Pardue v pardue it ruled the trial court erred when ordering child support paid by a disabled person with pending claim…The trial court here has been made during numerous hearings and testimony of this disability and pending appeal and still maintained I owed this support. I have now been awarded the lump sum benefit and I offered this case as a reason I should not have to pay…..Does this state court have jursidiction to order this check placed in the circuit clerk's office for disbursement of back child support plus interest accrued? thank you so much.

I am in that situation. My 25 year old son (who lives with me) is eligible and has received SSI when his dad has not paid child support. Dad has been found in contempt and has still been ordered to pay the child support arrears in the past. Dad is now filing a motion to modify child support, he wants it lowered or terminated likely because his son has "free government money" so why should HE have to support him. I wonder if the arrearages can be upheld since it is dad's fault son got government aid during months he did not pay. My son will be disabled for the rest of his life (was diagnosed at 5 months old) and I wonder why it is my sole responsibility or the responsibility of the tax payers and NOT dad's responibility. I believe the arrears should still be owed as dad has a responsibility to his son even when son can use a last ditch effort (SSI) for monthly income.

Jonathan,

You stated, "You should also note that auxillary benefits paid to dependents of SSDI (not SSI) recipients do not equate to child support."

My husband and I live in Washington state. The auxillary benefits his 2 children receive DO equate to child support payments.

In following that line of logic, the lump sum auxillary payment that was issued by SSDI would equate to the back child support that accumulated before his SSDI was awarded, and should have reduced it by the same amount.

However, it was not applied toward the back support, but the lump sum SSDI payment he received was reduced by the back support amount. In effect his children received both the auxillary lump sum and then the back child support.

My question is, if the auxillary SSDI offsets his child support obligation, then shouldn't the auxillary lump sum payment have offset the back child support?

I appreciate any information you can give me.

Andrea

I was just notified that I was approved for Disability. I am still working 20 hours a week, I pay child support and I owe arrears my youngest son is 17 (he will be 18 in Sept). He will be receiving a monthly payment from my disability until he is 18. The amount he will receive is more then my child support order. What does this mean? Am I still liable to pay child support? I do owe arrears and have a court order to pay 100. a month toward my arrears. I'm just not sure how all this will work?

Most states can take 50% of the SSDI payment for back support unless a payment arrangement is made. That would include the lumpsum back payment. Current payments will be taken at 50% of monthly SSDI if arrears are due. The child under graduation age will receive 50% payment that comes from a different fund (so not off your check) which counts for current support only. ]

This is a great way to pay your debt off and become current.

Yes, if 50% covers that amount (585). You will only get SSDI or SSI not both. SSI is a federal welfare for those who dont qualify for SSDI (must have 10 yrs of working to qualify).

Depending on the state, however, in my state – ARREARS dont get terminated. Current support can be modified upon new financial information (lost job, cut in pay, etc). Paying parent will have to pay current and back payments. SSI will be modified if payments are received as there is a cap on the SSI amount (around 694 currently in WA state). SSI is federal welfare.
Disabled adult gets SSI or if any parent or even grandparent are on disability, then the disabled adult gets 50% of their amount instead of SSI.
If you want child support past 18, then go back to court for a court order.

my husband got behind in child support in the 90's due to health reasons 3years. since then has paid steady and 200.00 more to apply to arrearage . child turned 19 in 2000 we paid child support until 2008 and mo said we were done. My husband became disabled and we were notified in Nov that Ne would be garnishing his check for child support and said we still owed 13000.00 in child and 21000.00 and interest. he onlu get 835.00 a month and after child support 650.00, this month they will start taking out for he medicare insurance which is 93.00 so his check is 555.00 a month. how can this be? We paid 8 years after his son turned 19. what can we do we can't afford an attorney, and legal aid doesn't do child support cases. thank for your time Lesa

I agree with this man I have another child whom is handicapped and I'm on social security and I have to pay $50.00 out of my benifits of only $870.00 a month

If I am on ssi and have a child, but I left child with his grandmother. Do I have to pay child support?

No interest or penalties may be withheld, and before the first withholding may commence, SSA must give the claimant 60 days notice.

Apparently interest can be witheld. The judge ordered 3 yrs worth of interest of 10% per yr (in Oklahoma). I got 3 yrs behind due to illness and failing health. I started receiving SSD after 22 yrs of work. The court garnished 50% of my check for 3 yrs for regular child support, and another 3 yrs of interest. I just paid off the interest June 3rd of 09.

im wondering if you just been approved and owe back or current child support how is it that the state can or will take money from the dissabled person if your on a fixed income where do they expect the money to come from and if so shouldnt the state assist the parent in need and if the child is now going to college shouldnt the state help with the fees for the college bill? mike ga

and if you were awarded say 30;000.00 can the child support take the whole ammount awarded to you if not but yet still awarded back support how much can the state take from the disabeled person money after all doesnt the person who is dissabled need the money just as well ? thankyou mike ga

Yes, if you are behind on child support, your arrears can be taken out of any back pay (SSDI only) issued to you. That information can be found on the social security website. My kid's father is going through SSID right now and he owes me over $50,000 so when his "big check" cmes it, better believe I am going to be there holding out my hand with an attorney there. IMO, if youa ren't taking care of our children then you shouldn't get the back pay. Period!

I don't understand why you wouldn't WANT this money to go to your child? It isn't your CHILD'S fault that you have bi-Polar, if you weren't paying for all of those years then the RIGHT thing to do even if the court didn't order you to, would be to TAKE CARE OF YOUR CHILD! I jsut don't understand all of these people on this site tryng to figure out some way to get out of paying their child support? Do you people not realize that if it wasn't for someone ELSE taking care of your children for all of htese years that your child would be HOMELESS, STARVING and NAKED! I'm sorry, but if I was disabled, why would that excuse me from taking care of my children? Is it different just because my child LIVES with ME? So I guess, when I file for disability next month, I should pack my kid and send him somewhere for someone else to take care of or better yet, maybe I should stop feeding him or clothing him becuase I only get acertain amount a month? Obviously if you are behind, you weren't making much of an effort to support your kid BEFORE your injury so…why am I surprised you wouldn't want to support your child after your injury?

What about the MOM of the CHILD or whoever else is taking care of your child? Is she/he on a fixed income? I'm sure being the only person taking care of your child, it is tight so y r u so special that you shouldn't have to pay just because u r on a fixed income? If you are BEHIND in Child Support then u SUCK!! Period

Gary you are so smart do you light fires by rubbing sticks together? Do you talk fom one mountain to the other with two cans and a wire? You do not know anything, and should not comment on someones living situation! Some people are dealt a crappy hand in life and try to do the best they can so unless you know that persons situation. I would recommend you keep QUITE!!!!!!! OH by the way You SUCK period!!!!

Tammy your can is ringing ,Gary must be calling. Same thing goes for you. You dont seem to know anything about Bi-Polar disorder!

I have just found out my ex is applying for SSI. He is behind on child support for over $50,000. I am told that SSI cannot be garnished for child support. Is there any recourses I can take? He is claiming he is disabled due to an auto accident about three years ago. My daughter is almost 14 years old. He has never willing paid the court ordered child support. He would work until his pay check was garnished then quit. Anyway, is there anything that can be done about the arrears and future support?

I only have a question. It was my understanding that when a disabled child reached 19 they can collect full SS disability benefits. I also heard that they cannot collect child support on top of that. We still pay child support for my husbands 23 year old daughter, have never been late or missed a payment and also watch her several days a month. Her mother always crossed off child support on the checks and then told my husband not to write it on the checks or say she was getting support. I just want to know what the law states?

My son gets SSDI child support his mother had another child and his support was cut. The other child has been adopted by another family, is she still able to get SSDI support now that she is not under the mothers custody?

My friend has legal custody of his children, the mother gets SSDI and SSI, the children get a small auxillary payment (not even enough to buy a McD's Happy Meal for each) per month. The father wants to file for child support because his income has decreased due to the economy, is he eligible to file against the SSDI that she receives? And, if our state has a minimun amount for child support do they use that or does Social Securityfigure a different amount if it reduces her check to less than half?

I have a dead beat ex husband who has not paid child support for many years. His arrears tops over $71,000.00 at this point. (for two children) He has recently been approved for SSDI benefits, which according to SS and the Texas State Attorney General's child support division can in fact be garnished. (SSI can not be garnished) I have been to the SS office and my children will be getting a lump sum for the past year (approximately $217 each per month – he also has another child and a wife that are also getting a benefit) and then my daughter, who is under 18 will continue to get the benefit until she graduates from high school in June '11. The shame of it is that my son graduated in June '09 so that's when his benefit ended. Better late than never, I suppose. Apparently there is new legislature that states that any benefit that children get from SS will be applied to the monthly child support amount. Anything left that is due will be garnished from his benefit amount as well as the back support that he currently owes. I have heard through the grapevine that he thinks that the kids can't "touch" his monthly benefit but he is sorely mistaken. It can and will be garnished and I will laugh all the way to the bank and my kids will finally get what they deserve. He will get a lump sum for $16,000.00 but I have been told by the SS office that the paperwork to get the garnishment withheld takes so long to process that he will have already received his lump sum before it can be taken. I think that is pathetic that someone that owes that much money to his children will walk away with that amount of money in hand and the kids will get none of it. My son started his first year of college today – paid for by me. It's a shame that my son is not getting his fair share of that $16,000.00 but his dead beat father is getting it all. To all of you people worried that your child will get some of your SS check – SHAME ON YOU. Grow up and be parents and help PAY FOR YOUR KID(S). If you had paid your child support when you were suppose to pay then you would not have to worry about your SSDI being garnished for back support. I don't feel a BIT sorry for you. Why not do something you have never done?!? It's called putting a child before yourself. Try it sometime. Your child is not 'screwing' you out of your money…you did it to yourself a long time ago by not supporting them as you were required.

i believe my husband owed his support but the child support debt is paid in full and we went on paying for another 9 years but now they say he still owes 35,000 dollars which every month the balance goes down 30 dollars because they are still charging interest. my husband will have to live another 90 years at this rate to pay it off. HOW IS THAT FAIR!!!!!

I'm a single mom, and I've had legal custody of my brother's two daughters ages 3 and 6. He refuses to help me with the girl's expenses, and he owe child support. I recently found out that he was drawing off SSA, can I
go down and apply for the girls to get a portion of his money? I called to get some information about this, and I have a phone appointment with social security real soon, I hope the girls are eligible to get a portion of his money. I've had custody of these girls since they were infants, and I feel it is only right that my brother help me.

I am curious if the state of Oklahoma would consider ordering a parent legally accountable to continue child support on an adult who suffered mental illness prior to age 18 but was not forally diagnosed and deemed disabled until after the age of 20.

My child is 29 years old in California, they keep saying I have to pay until ordered by the court, she is collecting SSDI and yet I still have to pay, what gives? can I not get released, I am being told to forget it, the courts will not release me and that I will pay the reest of my life?? what is your opinion

HOW IS IT FAIR that he got behind in the first place! I'm sure that was real easy for mom. For God's sake people, all these sad, poor me stories, WHAT ABOUT THE KIDS??? Its simple, if you make babies, TAKE CARE OF THEM.

My kids(2) father started getting disability and since then I have recieved no child support, how do I go about getting support payments..my friend of the court case worker has not helped at all.

My 3 year daughter's father receives SSI and I would like to know if there's anyway that my daughter can receive a SSI check. We are not married or living together.

I find it very interesting how people are trying to get out of paying their child support. It is very hard to raise children on your own. You automatically go on a fixed income when you are raising children by yourself. It is very expensive. All the deadbeat fathers out there need to accept responsiblity for not taking care of their children. When they were working and changing jobs as soon as they get garnished it was their responsibility to report to children service of their new job. If you owe arrears on child support you are obligated to pay this back money. That means that other custodial parent had to live on a fixed income because you were not doing your part. Please people take care of your children they were not asked or invited to come into the world. They are here because you chose to be irresponsible when you had sex with no protection. Give me a break

I am still trying to get an answer to the plausability of SSD taking over 60% of my check for support payments (arreage)when I have a court date set for November. I have documentation to verify my "Indigent" status and letters from the mother stating she only wants the back payment. The children are both over the age of 21. I also have entered a "Non court ordered agreement" with the DOR for payments of 25.00 per month sent to them directly. Yet I get a letter in the mail stating that SSD is making this deduction (But cannot tell me who even signed the order, and the order is my CSE #) which will leave me in serious financial dire straights, as in homeless, etc. Please help me find out if this is possible and if I can get the $ back once I have gone to court, or what to do. Respond to the E-mail above. Thank you so much. I would be happy to speak to you also if needed.

I am one of those fathers who is unable to work . I have two children and while I worked the lovely state of Ca. Took 60% of my income. Funny thing is that there is no… I repeat .. no accountability on the parent who receives support on our children's behalf.
She has lied from the very beginning to the courts. I am completely in favor of supporting your children. But i am also disabled and have been since 1999 I CANNOT work to do so would kill me. And also the meds i am on (opiates) painkillers for chronic pain puts the public at large. Support laws are not fair or appropriate for a disabled person.
My ssd if approved this time will go back to 2002. But I haven't been able to work since then . To think that the government can take all of the ssd money for back payments is rediculous. In other words the disabled person gets screwed out of any percentage of the back pay . But Its disability payments. for "not being able to work".
This is a really stupid law . The government gives bailouts to companies,bankruptcies, but the truly disabled dont get a break . We get threatened with Jail time, homes taken away, drivers licenses suspended, professional licenses taken away.
And if you really knew what happened in my personal life and the nightmare i have had with my ex concerning this you may take a different approach to calling "All" disabled people as "deadbeat". put you in my shoes and lets see if you would agree that i am a dead beat …. I dare you to.
I have done everything above the line concerning the law (s).
Deadbeat is not appropriate to call anyone because you dont know their situation , or what they have been through with their exs.

When I gave my ex custody of our 2 boys it was agreed upon by both of us and the judge ok'd that I would pay no child support. Now the state of California is saying I am arrears of 16,0000 dollars. They are not willing to look up the custody papers and I am unable to go to California. Can they take some of my disability check? He lied when he got state monies to begin with how do I go about correcting this so my disability checks are not garnished? Can I still report him for fraud?

your children will receive benefits. My children receive 500 a month from my disability. However, I am in Houston and the 1st COA has denied the $500 monthly payments as supported child support payments. I was ordered to pay $175 in child support and due to my disability I went into arrearanges for $13,000. The court denies the $25,000 my children have received as child support. If you are a kind human being you will accept the money and sign a waiver to any state claimed arrearages if you have or will receive more than what is owed

It depends on where you live. If you are in Texas there are jurisdictional conflicts and whether disability awards to disabled parents children is acceptable. If you are in Texas then you need to contact Representative Dutton and encourage him to refile HB 939 in the next legislature, or look for an attorney willing to take a pro bono case to the supreme court of Texas

"And if you really knew what happened in my personal life and the nightmare" HAHAH…Steve do you NOT realize that every DEADBEAT dad says the same damn thing? What makes you so different? You all have some sob story. Let me take a guess…your back right? I will almost guarantee your are one of those people scamming the hell out of everyone you come into contact with. Do your children a favor. Get off the damn pain pills and sounding like a little bitch. Pay your damn child support. LOSER!

If he is approved any child under 18 would get benefits, and they will go back 2 years and pay, you do have to notify ssdi that he is on benefits and they can add the children.

My husband recently was awarded SSDI and will be getting about 16 months back pay.

He presently owes around $20,000 back child support.

I know the government took his Stimulas pay in 2008 and his tax return automatically.

Will they also take his SSDI back pay automatically and if so will they give it all to me for back support or just a portion.

Any reply at all would be very much appreciated.

I am in the same position, my ex is over 5k in arrears. He just sent the friend of the court a letter from the doctor stating he cannot work. How do i find out if he has filed for disability? I have no contact with him, he keeps diappearing. Do i file for my child and wait and see if my ex has filed, or is there a way to find out if he is recieving anything or has even filed for benefits? i am lost in this whole thing.

My husband and I have custody of my husband's cousins 2 children. Bio mom and bio dad are not together. They both do not pay child support but are ordered to do so. In arrears upwards 25,000. The courts refuse to do anything. Bio father in and out of prison for other mean, horrible crimes, bio mother we just found out that she is receiving SS disibility for some stupid made-up concoction. I have to go to court next month and I was told by someone at DSS that the child support would stop and the arrears could too.
These parents have literally TRIED their BEST to proove themselves incapeable of taking care of these wonderful children and NOW is my chance to finally , finally terminate all rights they have, hopefully…thats all we want. After all of these years of stupid courts. The children deserve more out of life than what they started with.

My wife has 2 children from a former marriage,Her ex just went on SSDI and the kis get 250.00 each from this. In the past he has only paid 250.00 per month child support and that has come from his new wife paying it, before that he would not pay, now when have been served papers to go to court so he can get this dropped off, they say that the SSDI is enough, can he get this done in the state of Texas.

I'm very upset I pay almost 500.00 a month on my little boy who is three,and I've never seen him at all and I don't have the money to take his mom back to court to get my rights. I was suppost to get him every other weekend, but she didnt let me. And now I'm about to apply for SSI and I don't know how much of it she can get ,I don't mind paying just got bills to pay and got too live myself and she gets tanf too so someone pls help me and tell me what I need to know pls thanks upset

And I don't owe any back pay at all

I agree with you! However, in my case I do have the garnishment already through so I do get part of his SSD already. I was told when I first found out that he did not get is back SSD yet but that was over 7 months ago. I still have not seen a dime of his back payment. Is that a lost cause now?

I'm sorry…but I laughed so hard when I read this comment. Because…I totally agree!

Please do not hide behind a disability/disability payment to abort your moral obligation of being a parent. With the title of being a parent…comes the title of bill payer!

The child is the victim of your hiding in plain sight.

Dear LORD people! I am pregnant, the father is disabled and I found this site with a search for child support and disability, I am flabbergasted by the men in here who have no idea the costs (financial, emotional…) of raising the children you made! I am more worried than ever! Find a way to take care of your children, and don't worry about whether or not they itemize how your money is spent, it is NOT ENOUGH! Hell, day care for a DOG is $400/month, how much value do your children hold? Guessing it's more than your sorry selves, consider that!

I recently won my SSDI case. Apparently some people don't realize what it takes to get approved. I payed my support on time every week, no complaints. I believe I should support my child. But a few years ago I had 3 heart attacks, it's an hieredtary thing, that resulted in me having 5 by-passes. Also I had back surgery to try and correct problems from working in places like gravel pits and hard manual labor all my life. I was immeadiately fired from my job.
It's a long,long process to get a claim approved. During which time you have to rely on the kindness of others. And believe me you have to prove you can't work. You can't just take a doctor's note in and get approved. You go through alot of testing by your people and state doctors who are there to get you denied.
During the time I was out for these things my support got in arrears. I was taken to court. From the get go I was treated like a criminal. Later I filed for SSDI and after 3 years and multiple denial a judge approved me. I am 20k behind now. My benefits letter states i will recieve $900 a month, a vast sum of money to try and live on I know. But minus the $550 a month for arrearages makes it better. So after all I get $350 an month to exist on. Personally I would rather be able to work, because $350 isn't worth what you go through to get it. There's alot of predjudice against people when they say they are disabled. What some people don't see or won't accept is some of us are forced into disability.
I never expected to get enough from SSDI to "live" on, but I did expect enough to survive on. I'll be homeless before long and none of the shelters around here will let me stay there because I draw too much on SSDI. And even the goverment housing is $500 a month.

What about mothers who wont work with the fathers to make sure their kids are taken care of ? My huband worked 2 jobs and no matter how much he made child support always wanted more.At one point she wasnt getting the money that was garnished and blamed him instead of trying to find out where the money was going.She would rather my husband look like the bad guy to his 3 kids.Fathers are not always dead beats sometimes the mothers make it impossible.

I think lots of women take advantage when a man is down and out and is disabled. I believe that yes they should take care of their children but what they can afford monthly based on disability income. They should also look at the reasons why that person is behind maybe he could not work for a few years and maybe the mother wouldn't tell them where their child was and he just happened to stumble on where she lived. Also the Grandmother who has placemenet told him not to worry about child support and now she is worried and thats just what the mother said but the man stated that if they need any help then he would help if he has the money. Come on women quit being so money hungry. Oh yes by the way, I am a woman stating this

Child support should be taken from both parents equally put into a moniterd account and a debit card should be given to the custodial parent, all money used with account would be tracked. Now adays child support is used as a way of getting free money for travels new cars hanging out at the malls and nothing to do with the kids.

my checking account which receives both my ssdi & my new wife's ssdi have been seized for the full amount of both our checks (direct deposit)with no notification and leaves us with a negative account balance of $18,000. My bills are all bouncing, mtg, etc. Trying to get an attorney. we live in Florida, case in Massachussetes..no attorney will take the case. Child is 40 years old and I paid for years. Daughter did not live with mother during the time of child support in arrears. She is willing to testify to that. what do I do..please help me. desparate.

I've been disabled since I was 12 years old. I'm now 30 & I have 2 kids and was at one time able to work but my only working kidney is failing on me and no longer able to work. They take 367.00 a month for my oldest and 240.00 a month for my youngest from the 710.00 I get a month..
Now The mother of my youngest is so rude and pissed off at me shes trying to get the rest of it for day care, I need help, I dont know what to do

so if someone is on ssi they dont have to pay any child support? my wives kid is five years old and we have got very little child support for her that kinda messed up he dont have to pay anything hes only 29 and sells drugs for a living…..we cant take his house or nothing?

My question is my husband receives SS monthly disability benefits. My 3 children and I also each receive a small separate payment. My husband is telling me that their payments count towards his chid support. Is this true or is chid support itself completely separate from any benefits they receive?

my childs father draws a ssi check we have went to court he was ordered by the judge to pay 42.00 a week he made one payment. now he pays nothing he was worked off and on at a moving company and just 3 months ago he worked at restrant for about a month and a week before he up and quits because he got a letter from the social security office telling him that he didn't tell them he was working and hours he had. He did not even think about his daughter when he and his wife and other baby was spending it.

Oh, let me guess Suzy since you are into sterotypes and hunches. Let me take a crack at your situation. You are some bitter ass fat stay at home mom with no trade or skill other than changing a diapers and knowing the correct mixture of cough syrup and similac to make your kids sleep all day. Don't pretend to know people's plights. With your crap fest of atitude no wonder he left. You are destined to be alone and once your your kids get wind of who you are they will abandon you two. How did I do. Stereotypes ate painful aren't they.

i live in the state of alabama and the law here says that if you recieve ssi you dont have to pay child support so much to my surprise i get no help from my sons father because he recieves ssi

I need to know how to put in for a AFDC Check for my kids*

@Tammy:
amen to that Tammy. My sons father is $40,000 in arrears. I have always said that by the time I can get any $ out of this loser…..I will be old and in diapers!

If my daughters father was getting social security disability before he died but I didnt find out until after he passed away could my daughter still be entitled to back money from when her father started getting disability or is she only entitled to survivors benefits?

I was recently awarded social security disability in the state of Virginia and can no longer work. I have an eleven year old child whose father has always paid child support (didn't like it but paid it). Now that I am collecting disability he seems to think he should be able to lower his child support payments because childcare was considered when the child support was calculated. As I no longer work he feels this should be recalculated. I reminded him that the support was calculated on what both he and I made. The amount I receive in disability is a far cry from what I made when I was working. I don't know how this will effect child support and simply cannot afford to hire an attorney to find out. I have never tried to take him to court for an increase in child support because he has remarried and his wife has 3 children from a previous marriage one of which battled cancer 5 years ago. Although I don't think I can be shocked with how courts handle child support I will be completely and utterly speechless to find that the support can be lowered. The child support in question has never been increased (not even for cost of living) and was set back in October 2005.

If you have any lawful information that might be beneficial I thank you and am grateful.

I have 3 children: Oldest is in college, 13 yr old boy lives with me, 12 yr old daughter started living with her mother 2 yrs ago. My ex-wife is on SSI which enables her to collect for my 12 yr old daughter and I to collect for my 13 yr old son. even though she is able to work, do I have to pay her child support for my 12 yr old? I have raised all 3 as a single father for over 10 yrs, while only receiving SSI. I have never received any child support but now have to pay it even though both childrens benefits' offset each other.

your thoughts…
thank you for your time

I receive SSI for a workers comp injury. My child support is paid by SSI. I've since tried going back to work. I was told by SSI that I have a trial period to see if I can handle returning to work. I'm not sure if I'm able yet either. But I am trying. During this trial period, I still receive SSI and they still pay my child support. My ex wife is threatening to take me back to court during this trial period to get them to garnish child support from my new job as well. But I'm not even sure if I can continue working. My injuries are starting to flare up again and causing a lot of pain.

@Tammy: I have no sympathy for women who cry the blues about child support. if you sleep with a loser and dont protect yourself then it should be your problem. If women get pregnant by a guy that is a jailbird, drug user or out of work bum then why should i care? every animal competes to mate, the best of the best mate in all species. jailbirds drunks and losers should not be considered by sensible women as father material. there are too many ways to avoid getting knocked up nowadays. nsavidge

@khristi: you married a loser and that is your problem isn't it? get a life and a job………maybe two jobs.
learn birth control. good luck at wendy's. ns

@Donavan: that guy sounds pretty
cool. get your welfare ass out of bed, put down the cheap booze and zanex and get to work. wendy's needs help…….ns

i have a question for anybody that can answer it. I am 25 years old and disabled. i have a heart problem that keeps me from doing most manual labor as to why i have ssdi in the first place. well, i had been kicked out of my old place by my parents as soon as i got my ssdi and basiclly left to fend for myself, which i have done ok. well, an ex gf of mine at the time came back around and we had a few encounters. well now she si pregnant with my child and i was even careful and used a condom, but still. anyways, we tried to work things out again for ourselves and the child but it went tot he crapper. we are still friends and me her and her mother are all preparing for the newborn due in may of 2010. my question is, sense I'm on ssdi and ssi, and sense we are not together i know child support has to be paid, but can they take a lot out? I'm not against paying for my child, it's just that what can i do if the court rules i have to pay over $100 a month or more? I only get around $555. and if they take anymore then $100 I'm screwed. I need to know if i can fight this or at least make a agreement to pay as much as i can, and still be able to get into a public housing situation/on my feet, so that i can be a better father and be better suited to take care of my son. I am however weary that maybe my ex and her mother might be planning something and playing nice, sense me and my ex have had a lot of arguments and dissagreements which stuff was said that was unbelievable on her part, basiclly i feel as if she will screw me over and keep me from seeing my son. I just wonder if i have any chance or if I'm about to gt shafted. I cannot be left with nothing to support myself, even if they don't care. sounds elfish on their part but they can be pretty two faced when they want something. I have fought for my ssdi for 6 years and i know I made a mistake getting her pregnant, but I don;t want to pay for the rest of my life and get shafted because my ex is a possible gold digger and seems to in some way hate her ex's. you know what I'm saying? that type of baby mama drama. any bit of information will be helpful thank you.

@the kid: That is true. I also have a 1yr old son who's "father" is getting ssi. No support can be taken and our children can't even get childrens ssi benefit unless they are disabled themselves. So the deadbeats recieve almost 700 a month for free from our hard earned $ that we pay in taxes and they have no responsibilities to the children that they wern't so disabled enough to make in the first place. LOADS OF BS. Glad my taxes can pay for "Father Support"

That is true. I also have a 1yr old son who's "father" is getting ssi. No support can be taken and our children can't even get childrens ssi benefit unless they are disabled themselves. So the deadbeats recieve almost 700 a month for free from our hard earned $ that we pay in taxes and they have no responsibilities to the children that they wern't so disabled enough to make in the first place. LOADS OF BS. Glad my taxes can pay for "Father Support" while my son gets nothing.

I have never seen such selfish people as some of these. I would have to say I was very lucky that my ex. is a good man who always took care of his children.We may not have been ablr to live together but we always put our children first.I wish more people could do that!

I have 2 boys that draw ss from their dad being disabled. Isthat the same as child support or is that something completely different? Can a person get child support as well as their kids drawing ss?

My exhusband and I have 3 children together. Right now he pays $50.00 a month in child support. I have just gotten to where I don't care because what comes around goes around. When my kids grow up I will be the one getting to watch the grandbabies… not him. No use in me trying to fight it and waste time that could be spent not being angry and loving my children. Anyhow, one of our children has a rare neurological disorder that causes several problems. We live in different states and he has not seen him in almost 5 years. He is saying that if our son gets approved for SSI that one…..he does not have to pay anymore? and 2. He should get some of the money for his household "in-case" our son ever goes there? I think this is bologna, but……wanted to check just in case so I know for myself. I am in Pennsylvania and he is in Washington State.

Your absolutely right debbie.Your ex was raised by a man but a lot of women and men here on this site that owe child support got the nerve to even ask the question about giving their children the support that they should have are dead beats and money hungry people that will never come to a good end. How can you not support your children "I say to them" they ought to be glad that they even have the income they do,because most of these dead beats that are receiving benefits from SSA and owe child support there are nothing wrong with them anyways they just found an easy way to get out of paying for the children and their spouses by pretending to be half dead.No disrespect to the people who are really disabled and doing the best you can do,but this is for all you deadbeats. Debbie you and tammy and all of the others that believe in the truth is absolutely correct. Deadbeats take care of your children and be glad that you still have rights to even look at them. So many Nasty,Low graded,envious A-holes here need to love your children and see more of them.Its a lot of us that love our children on here and we would do anything to see them happy. So be prepared to give up that money cause there is not a damn thing you can do to stop it. If you owe pay and be proud the SSA is giving you anything……………….don't waste your brethe with a negative comment cause the truth hurts for ya. Save it for the courtroom. @debbie:

These women will somehow get the money. Afterall, there is always a sale on shoes at the mall. I would love to see how they would feel If they had to account to the court for every dime they got.

@Nelson

Are you SERIOUS??! You are probably the RUDEST person I've ever had the DISPLEASURE of encountering online. HOW DARE you put down these women who are only requesting what THEIR CHILDREN are entitled to!?! CHILD SUPPORT is for the children.. NOT for the mothers… THEY are fighting to get a little help from the "donors" that had no problem helping them CREATE the child but seem to believe being a DEADBEAT enables them to shirk their responsibilities….

… sounds a bit like you might be ONE of those men …

As far as it being a WOMAN'S PROBLEM because she laid down w/ a loser… You're off your rocker. We ALL make mistakes… I'm sure that, unless you're a virgin, every person who's encountered YOU sexually would name you as one of their BIGGEST mistakes… That is, if you're ANYTHING in person as you've portrayed yourself on this message board… BOTH people made the baby, BOTH people decided, for whatever reason, not to use protection.. and BOTH people are RESPONSIBLE!

In today's society, it's all too common for the father to MAKE the baby and walk away.. That goes from the BOTTOM DWELLERS to the CEO level… WOMEN, for the most part stay w/ their children and provide for them BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY… and I have a NEWS FLASH for all the men trying to AVOID Child Support or Dodge their children's mothers…

** It takes A WHOLE LOT MORE than 500.00 a month to take care of a CHILD! **

I, MYSELF am a single mother w/ a beautiful daughter, by a deadbeat dad… I WORK HARD everyday and make GREAT money… I take care of my daughter ALONE because her father hasn't payed ANYTHING in child support… FINALLY he got on SSDI and she got a BACK PAY check for her Auxillary benefits… I'm PRAYING that they snag a LARGE PORTION of his lumpsum back pay check to help make up for the 20k+ that he's behind in Child Support… and guess where that will go?? INTO A COLLEGE FUND for her…

GET A GRIP! All men who are cowardly and choose not to take care of their kids are poor excuses for men… YOU can do SOMETHING… WE shouldn't have to do all…

If you have ANY comments for me… I'm INTERESTED to hear them… my email addy is Jada406@hotmail.com…

Have a little sensitivity jerk

I always seem to read that all women complain about deadbeat dads ..HHMMM… I wonder if the courts and simply the law started to be in favor of the man for custody and to receive child support as well as having the women be effeted by the Bradley Amendment. Simply put ,role revearsal. See ladies you all claim to want indepence and be treated equally as men . LOL…. just think you have to go out and work 60-80 hrs …yes ladies WORK… just to barely survive , so you can give the money to your ex. You know exactly what he's doing with the money , Same as you are now…WOW…that's not FAIR is it. You see ladies you may have a much of brainless liberals running your state . But Karma is A …… fill in the blank . Your at least smart enough to do that.

I am disabled my mother stole my disability money for 29 years. I tried to get her to change the address because we recently moved. She tried to steal my money again. She was my rep payee. When I went to social security for my wife to become my rep payee they terminated my disability because they said I am an adult disabled child in their system. I wasnt supposed to marry someone that wasnt the same as me. How ridiculous is this. I only found out I even had disability because of my wifes help and my mother tried stealing my money again. She switched the address back to where she lives. They told me the record was terminated in their system and suspended. I have a meeting for SSI for an interview this coming week. Is there any way she could try to have this reinstated. I was told not, but I dont know. I dont want her stealing my money anymore! She did it way too long enough. I filed a fraud allegation against her through social security. I am possibly being considered for SSI because the only income we have is her unemployment now. This sucks can anyone help? We also are seeking a lawyer through lundy law we have a phone appt Monday.

My ex has never paid his child support. He made poor choices in life, which not only led to our divorce ten years ago, but also a short period of jail time, homelessness, and a mental breakdown. I made much better life choices, I while I have sometimes struggled financially, I do not NEED money from him in order to finish raising our children. However on principal I think he should be taking responsibility to send something for his kids, even if it is only $10.00 a month!
He has now been declared "mentally unfit to work" and will be getting some type of SS benefit, although I am not clear on wheather it is SSI or SSDI. He is telling me the kids will get a $350 a month benefit each, plus he will be getting several lump sum payments (they are back-dating his benefits to one year ago) out of which he promises (and his promises have usually been worthless) to give the kids $1000 each to start savings accounts. He also promises, from this point forward to send $50 a month for each kid.
The problems is, he is dangling this "carrot" and saying the only way the kids will get this money is if I ask for his child support case to be closed. As I said, I don't need the money and I am willing to help him out, but I don't trust him as far as I can throw him and I don't want to let him out of his responsibilities to his kids.
Is he just throwing me a line to try to keep more of the SS money for himself? Couldn't we just modify the court order for child support to give him a break and let him keep enough money to live on, rather than closing the entire child support case? Do I have to depend on him to get any benefits the kids are entitled to since I dont have a copy of whatever papers estatablish that he is getting a SS benefit, or do I make the claim myself? Do I go to the SS Administration or to the DA? This is in California.

I was just browsing the web, trying to find information on whether or not I could garnish my ex husbands disability check and I stumbled upon this site. I had to leave a comment because I was so surprised to see so many fathers talking about how they feel they shouldn't be garnished. I wonder why they feel this way.? I have been a single mother for nine long years and in that time I've worked my butt off getting an education and working full time for my child. We are doing great, but I still feel entitiled to some child support, which I will never see. I don't understand how men feel that they shouldn't have to pay. Why would you make a child and expect not to give that child any kind of start of their own.? It's not the single parents fault some of you only get 600.00 a month. I just wish you guys would take care of your children like hard working women do. Peace out!

It is to my understanding that SSI payments or settlements CANNOT be garnished, nor can it be ordered to have any amounts taken out of them. I received a letter signed by a county judge and the county domestic relations office in Sunbury, PA. The letter was sent to the SSA. It was an order to take up to 50 percent of my settlement and monthly payments to pay for child support. Is there anywhere that I can get a copy of the law that states SSI payments cannot be garnished, so I can send a copy to the judge and domestic relations office? Why was this order ever even sent? I applied for SSI not SSD

It is to my understanding that SSI payments or settlements CANNOT be garnished, nor can it be ordered to have any amounts taken out of them. I received a letter signed by a county judge and the county domestic relations office in Sunbury, PA. The letter was sent to the SSA. It was an order to take up to 50 percent of my settlement and monthly payments to pay for child support. Is there anywhere that I can get a copy of the law that states SSI payments cannot be garnished, so I can send a copy to the judge and domestic relations office? Why was this order ever even sent? I applied for SSI not SSD

I became disabled after having my son (It was retroactive back to 2 months after his birth.) My (ex now) husband was unable to work, so my SSD and SSI supported all three of us. He now gets SSD, and my son gets a small check on his earnings. The magistrate who did our divorce said that counts as child support. Child Support Enforcement said that it's not, because our divorce decree is not enforceable. My ex gets the same amount from his SSD as my SSD, SSI, and my son's check combined. He bought a trailer in the same park my son and I live in so that they could be close. We have open visitation so that he can see him as much as he wants. My son has spent the night at his place twice since last May (two nights total, not two weekends.) I haven't pushed the CS issue, even though SS told me that I could, because he said he couldn't afford it. Now he's moving about 1/2 hr away to be with his girlfriend, but he is going to be paying half of her bills, PLUS lot rent and electric at his trailer here. (She has a son, but not custody, and doesn't pay CS.) I know 1/2 hr drive doesn't seem like much, but it is extremely difficult for me to drive. The magistrate said that he won't reopen the case or order CS, because his previous order is enforceable…though no agency agrees, they don't want to get involved. What can I do? I live in Fl.

I have been disabled since 08 and I finally won my disablity case.My kids will get their monthly checks also.My question is I am going for a divorce.Me and my soon to be ex have been separated for 12 yrs.I have not paid support since Feb 08 do to not able to work.Can my ex get child support on top of the ssdi benefits.She is also on disablity.

Hello, my case has to do with paying child support, which I have been paying on for close to 10 yrs. I have been paying for back support payments that presently add to $40000.00 with the interest adding up continuously, even while paying child support through previous employers. Presently child support payments are taken out of my unimployment benifits, and interest still continues. My kids are all grown-up, with kids of their own, but I continue paying. These back payments for child support are being taken out from welfare institutions that my ex-wife utilized to support our kids. I'm not trying to make any excuses. I know that It's my responsibility to pay. Next month I will be attending a judicial hearing, for my case to recieve Disability benefits. I just want to know, that if I win my case. Will I have to continue paying on my child support directly to the administration, or what can I expect? What procedings will I be looking at? Will I be in danger of loseing all of my Social Security Disability award?, or can monthly payments be arranged?

I have congestive heart failure and have been receiving SSD since 2005. I have also had $312.00 a month allocated from my SSD since 2006 for child support arrears, I only receive $432.00, thats whats left. Do I have any rights since my children are 23 and 26 with kids of their own. They are girls and take their mothers defense even though my ex wife has a good job, a home that's paid for, go's on vactions around the world. I am not saying she's a bad person, but when I asked her for help and allow me to ask for a modification she told me forget it and I am practically on the verge of homelessness and my question is since I have a pacemaker/deffibulator implant and was told I need a heart transplant do I have any rights or is there something I should do to help myself, I own nothing but a vehicle that I still make a payment on and I have to depend on the kindness of others and that's wearing out all my friendships and resources. I just don't know what to do? I have not disputed it till now because I managed to get by, but I have to get help here, I cannot work, its a miracle that I'm still alive. Somebody out ther please steer me in the right direction, please, I need your help. Sincerely, Brian

@lesa veldman:
my son has ben in disability for over 3yr. he can not work do to mental health. hi has to pay child support but the ss send the the kids money. can that be part of the child support that he has to pay

my sons father is on ssi but he is working right now n i cant get ssi for my son or even child suport n im a single mother so how is that fair!

@MSE: She's defrauding the system. If there is proof he's paying child support her check will be reduced by that same amount. So mom is collecting the full check and the child support on the side without reporting it. That's fraud – and if she's willing to defraud the SSA, then I'd watch out. She could at some point claim that he didn't pay the child support since the checks no longer say what the money is for. KEEP PUTTING IT ON THE CHECK and report her to the SSA!!

So what happens if you are awarded a lump sum from SSD and you dont owe back child support? Do they still get a percentage of it?

I have 4 children and their father receives ssdi. He has a 5th child and all 5 children receive $63 per month a piece. He owes both the other mother and I thousands in back child support. He is getting 880 a month. How and can his lump sum or monthly ssdi be garnished for the support that he owes. Will we just have to do without because of a faulty system?

I was just given a fully favorable decision about my disability claim (Filed on July 6,2004) and I have recieved my SSI backpay check for the past, but I am unclear if a state can take my Disability Back Pay Check for child support arrears. I'm also very unclear (even after reading the federal laws) about the current monthly support. Whether It is covered in the childrens backpay & monthly checks or if I have to keep paying out of my monthly disability check that I recieve. I want my children to have all the best but I also must survive too.

I lost my rt leg in 1997 and was awarded ssdi and a lump sum at the same time before I lost my leg I was in arrears by about 15K, but paying my wife thru garishment 50% of my weekly check. It averaged out to 250.00 a week. I filed for modification and had her support dropped to 124.00 per month.And its been that way ever since. The money is taken from my bank account and I'm down to 6400.00. I lost my left leg in Jan 2010 and she has yet to get any of my ssdi

@Steve: I understand that you are disabled and receive money because you supposedly cannot work. You have children, and i'm sure you can do something. SSD gives you the opportunity to work and make over $900.00/month, and it won't affect your ssdi. If you can type on the computer, talk on the phone, etc., then you can work. Your children come first, and both parents need to make sure their children are cared for. Children are the priority. If it means learning another skill, which disability may help you with, it is your priority to do so. Granted, if your on your death bed, severely brain damaged, I can understand. But, I guarantee, that is not the case for most.

I have been disabled since I was 18 years old. For many years I drew an SSI check but I did work whenever possible. Ten years ago, several months before my marriage to my current wife I had a fling with a girl that lasted approximately two months. During that time there were many reports of her being with other men, and that is ultimately what lead us to seperate.

She left me, approximately a week after finding out she was pregnant. Now at this point I had no idea whether she was actually pregnant, whether the child was mine, and she disapeared off the radar. I heard that she had contact with my parents but when I inquired with my father he said that she had not been in contact at all. Approximately two years ago, I recieved a letter in the mail that I needed to report for DNA testing. I did, and found out miraculously I had a son. An 8 year old son.

This started a long bout of court appearances where I was assesed for child support. I understand it is my obligation to support the child I never knew about and I agreed to pay child support without any questions. I only asked that I be able to visit my son.

I was told by the attorney general that the decision whether to see him or not was in the hands of the custodial parent, and that I had an obligation to pay child support either way. I nodded my head and signed the paper for child support. I was not given the chance to have a lawyer I could afford. ( which would have to be free, or close to it) I was given a child support payment of 150.00 which came from a 700.00 monthly check. I decided at that moment to make sure that everything was taken care of that I would ask the money be directly taken out of my social security disability benefit.

Recently I was also assessed for a medicare payment, a total of 100.00 and a back child support payment totaling some 23,000 dollars. All of which is coming out of my social security disability check, my 700.00 check is reduced now to 330.00. I do not recieve any other state or federal aid. I do not ask for food stamps, I do not ask for housing, I do not ask for anything.

I read most of what was typed here, and it broke my heart. I struggle daily to get by. I don't want out of my child support, I want to support my child. I think though for someone with a long term disability there should be some form of assistance for people who are trying to take care of their child.

I think that the social security benefits that a child can recieve due to their parent being disabled should be placed towards, or suppliment a monthly child support payment. This way the child is taken care of and the disabled parent too.

Unfortunately our system doesn't workt hat way.. so I will continue to try and forage around for only 330.00 a month.. LOL..

not complaining, just sharing my story.. I do think however, that every county in every state should make it clear that if a parent is paying child support, that they have the right, and the privilage to see their child, and that it should not be left up to the custodial parent.

In Knox county TN, a person simply has to go to the county clerks office and fill out a sheet of paper, to get hte ball rolling for visitation.. However in Blount Co. Tn, they say you have to employ a private lawyer.. Legal aid will not help with visitation.. ( unless you are a female) a fact I learned by calling and asking for help..

The cheapest private lawyer in Blount County asked for a 1500$ retainer.. I have a 500$ a month rent.. HOw in the heck am I supposed to afford a 1500$ retainer.. when I only get a 330.00$ check? It makes no sense..

Anyway, just wanted to share my story..

I have been seperated for two years..My husband has gotten SSDI my son has recived back payment..My daughter would of but cause she is hearing impared and get;s SSI they kept her settlment..Each child recieves 250 per kid..Now my husband is filing for divorce and he tells me cause the kids receive 250 he does not have to pay child support…In the divorce paper he wants me to give up all child support benefits … i just want the divorce should i accept that the SSdi child benefits my kids receive as child support? Plus only being seperated not legally as far as i know he owes no back child support i never filed a claim… I figure if he don;t want a pay time then it shows me and the kids how much he cares

Hi I have to kids 11 and 12 and it's been a fight for years with my ex on paying support for the kids. It has been about 2 yrs with no money or help of getting any from him. It's a on going problem with him. He has 3 other kids with two other women, he is know married and lives in low income houseing and works under the table at some generator company. He claims he's unable to work and struggles well thats not so. He is 36 and is on ssi benifits and dhs is not able to keep tabs or help me in any way. My ex has always wanted to find a way not to pay support for his kids well he finelly thought of some way of doing so. I have tryed over and over to get help on this matter but it never gets me any where. My ex is playing a big game with this support issue. Please if any options? thanks

My exhusband of 5 year was collecting SSDI. He passed away last week at the age of 53. Our children are now 29 and 31. he never supported them. He owes me thousand of dollars in child support. Am I or my children entitled to his SS Benefits.

In August, I will begin receiving both SSD and SSi due to Bi-polar disorder. My soon to be ex-wife and I have twin daughters, under the age of one year. This may be a curve ball question, but is it possible that if I disagree with my amount owed to actually RAISE the amount? I love my daughters but can no longer live with my wife. Being bipolar and being disabled there are housing programs and state assistance available to me, but little for her and the girls. I know it's an odd question, but any help?

Wow, I am shocked by the animosity displayed towards disability's and fathers. It is not always the father's fault. I have not seen my daughter in four yrs because she was illegally taken out of the state. I had driven the mother to the airport so she could visit her family…because of that the authorities refused to get her to return even though she did not sign and submit the papers required to leave the state for more than three weeks. The woman was a deadbeat. She could not hold a job and was constantly trying to get pot. I started working 14+ hrs per day to provide support for us but all she would do it was chat on a computer or cell phone. When I would get home I ended taking care of Ivy. I really don't care if I have to pay as long as I can see my daughter…I don't even know what state she is in anymore. Regardless, I developed pneumonia and bronchitis while walking to work and back to support them. Now I can barely mow the lawn without coughing blood up… While I am scared of surviving on such a small amount due to garnishments and am worried that the money won't get to my daughter. Is it possible to put it in a college fund of sorts or a roth? The mother I am afraid will just spend it on alcohol, tobacco and pot…like she did with the arrears of the previous marriage

@michelle: wanna run that by us again, and actually say it in english this time? are you saying that disabled people are greedy? or that they shouldnt comment? it made no sense.

If your children are receiving Social Security off of their father he will not have to pay child support.

My ex-husband had failed to pay his child support for years even though he was working and well able to do so. I obtained a judgment on arrears and an IDO. He has just been awarded SSDI and has also been collecting a stipend from VA for PTSD arising from his service to our country in the Vietnam war. All I want is the $50 a week payment on the child support arrears until paid in full at $16,000.00. I supported the 2 children all their lives with only minimal or nothing from the father, even though through those years he was able to own his own airplane, a Jag, and beautiful, large house on the hill. Does anyone know what I need to do to get this $50 a week from his SSDI or VA benefit? Thank you.

Minnesota laws are the worse.
#1. If a female claimed you abused her. It is true by all means until proven otherwise. Guilty basically until you prove you are a good man. Minnesota courts suggest all man are bad. I verified this with a dozen lawyers.

#2. All income is captured/forwarded to the female by child support.

#3. If female claims abuse the male is required to take anger management classes EVEN IF INNOCENT to verify that he is a good man. The catch to this is that now the court can say you had to take an anger management class so this makes you an abusive person by some % or chance.

#4. All children are automatically given to birth mother. Father must pay all costs to a child center to visit. In fact he is required to do so and required to visit or he loses all his rights to the child & may face full child support wreckage to the extent the law allows and it's lots that the law allows from taking your bank account right down to your tax returns, driving, & even your ssi, ssdi checks.

list goes on and on. You can imagine how easy it is for a female to set a trap for a man. It's not hard at all.

Not hard at all especially in MN.

I was a victim myself. Married her, gave her a child and shared everything with her. Never laid a hand on her. Today I lost everything.

May the lord rain down justice someday. This is so unfair.

I ask my SS office why do I owe $18,000.00 to them because I am DEAF , but I gave them my check stub to fix it for me but they never do that, DO I have to pay back ? I need HELP, MY Mom and dad are passed away. I don't understand this stupid people talk to me that he want my money for his job, But i read his lip that he want me pay him $18,000.00 but it came from my work , but I can't work because of back problem.

I used SSA but I want SSDI but they refused it . I have no kids , married 1 time and now divorced back 1979 but never married again just single. But what should I do I have to pay back $18,000.00 for my old work 3 different job but quit my job now ,but 1 thing is my back hurt a lot can't work just stay home , take care myself . I do not understand but really big UPSET , I NEED HELP AND NEED LAWYER .

@GrumpyBump: Wow if he is disabled and you decided to have a child anyway then maybe you should have thought of the cost first. We men in this case are flabbergasted by women like you that trap men between the legs that should have been kept shut instead of your moment of pleasure and a lifetime of our tax dollars.

Maybe you should have stuck with the dog!

@Chris: No it is not always the fathers fault, I was in an accident, hmm lets see not my fault, broke back and neck, had surgery, going through ssi process, and the injuries are in depth from the cervical to the lumbar but yeah I am called a dead beat dad for the last 3 years.

Some piece of work many of these women are that they still have their hand out for what little we will draw and be expected to give half of that too when it is way below poverty level to start with.

Thats why they call it an accident people. Wake up.